I’ll be the first person to tell you that homeschooling is the best decision that we could have ever made for our family. It’s amazing, and fun, and silly, and challenging and all the wonderful things that one would imagine.
It’s also hard.
Some days, it’s like being pecked to death by chickens while trying to recite the multiplication tables.
It’s not hard for the reasons you may think.
No, no, finding curriculum and co-ops and entertaining yet educational field trips can be a hassle at times, but it’s part of the “job”. It’s hard because you’re around your kids 24/7. It’s hard because siblings argue. A lot. Sure my kids are sweet and polite and well mannered when we’re “out there”, but when we’re home…. oh sweet baby buffalo, when we’re home things can change.
I giggle when folks say that our kids will never know what it’s like to be bullied.
Those folks must not have more than one child. We socialize with every age group and various walks of life, in our daily journeys. Socialization happens naturally, and so does the bullying. [I’m talking about sibling rivalry, not bullying as it’s commonly thought of.]
I always know when we need to shift gears, when the “what” that we’ve been doing, isn’t working for us anymore. How do I know this? Well, because our 2 oldest children bicker and argue more. They do little things that they know get on the nerves of the other, just to get a rise out of them. It’s a form of entertainment, I think. So I have to think fast and change up the plans.
I’m certainly not a parenting expert, I only have my opinions and what has worked for our family. When our boys bicker and “fight”, we MUST change gears. I find often times that boredom is the trigger. When this happens, I KNOW it’s time to get us outside.
Take a look at some ideas for field trips on a shoestring budget, that we’ve managed to make part of our unschool.
It’s not easy, this homeschool life.
It’s not always rainbows and lollipops and any homeschooler that tells you that it is? Well, they’re lying to you. I wouldn’t trust them on that topic, buy them a cup of coffee and or a bottle of wine. They need it.
When the days are good, they’re so so very good. They’re truly the best days of our lives. The laughter that fills the air, the overall loving feeling that is present can’t be topped by anything. They’re siblings, and at the end of the day, I know they mean the world to one another. I know this with all of my heart.
When you hear the saying, “The days are long but the years are short.”, I’m pretty sure a homeschooler came up with that phrase. It’s very true. The faster the years pass, the more I wish I had held on to the days a little bit tighter, even tho they’re challenging.
I suppose that on the bright side, I should be thankful that the only trouble they are giving us is the bickering and disagreements. There are so many other things they could be doing that aren’t so pleasant. They’re not licking windows either.
Except, I would like a little help cleaning the windows.
How do you cope with sibling rivalry?
Leave your ideas in the comments.