Hey, girl. Yes, I’m talking to you. Sitting there with your hair in a messy bun and possibly yesterday’s makeup, I see you. I want to have a little chat with you, about the mom selfie.
We have a lot in common, you and me. We’re both moms. We both love taking photos of our children. I LOVE seeing all the photos you share of your babies. I get excited knowing that technology has made it so incredibly easy to watch our friends’ children grow, even if they live in another part of the world. I have a problem tho, the photos… you’re not in them. We need to fix that sweet mama. Neither of us is in those pictures most of the time. We are both always worried about our appearance, and because of such, we avoid having our photo taken, like the plague.
But you know what? It doesn’t matter. Messy hair, threadbare t-shirts, and no make-up. Our kids really won’t care in 20 years, and isn’t that the point of taking photos, to remember? They see our beauty, even when we aren’t feeling so pretty.
You’re not a narcissist, I don’t care what any article about selfies will tell you. It doesn’t matter. You’re not vain; you’re not self-absorbed, you’re not a narcissist just because you take selfies. We are mothers, and we are left out of photos far too often. It’s time to make a change.
Now that we’ve established the what and the why let’s talk about the how.
You don’t want to take your selfie from a low angle. It’s not that we want to give the illusion of something we’re not, as some articles suggest. We want to look flattering in every photo, it’s only natural. So raise your camera up, get above your shoulders. If you’ve ever noticed that taking a photo of a flower or building from a low perspective, makes the subject appear larger than it really is. That applies to selfies too.
Find the light. A camera, no matter what type, has one job; to capture light. Make sure you’re in a well-lit room. If your smartphone camera has the ability, adjust your exposure. Try not to use flash, unless it’s unavoidable.
It’s ALL about the angle mama. Raise that cell phone up HIGH!
Buy a selfie stick! YES!!! I said it, a selfie stick (I have this one, and I LOVE it!) get one so you can not only get in the photo but so you can also include your kids. (or your BFF, or your hubs, or whatever your heart desires!)
Grocery shopping with your toddler, take the selfie. Include your toddler too! When that precious little one is our age, she will adore all that was different “way back then.”
You can edit that photo too, but mama, please don’t edit so much that YOU get lost. Have a few age spots? That’s okay. Is it getting harder to hide that you are 40 and FANTASTIC? Mama, it’s okay. YOU are beautiful, every inch of your glorious body.
Get photo CRAZY! You can be the crazy camera lady! (I need more members in this club anyway!) You’re most likely walking around with a smartphone in your pocket, put that camera to WORK! (Rhianna totally played in my head just now.)
I know what you’re thinking because I promise you I am thinking the same thing. It’s okay mama, just take the mom selfie. You don’t have to share it on social media unless you want to. It’s more important that you take that photo, for your children to have when they’re grown and trying to remember the fun you had together.
I want you to take that mom selfie, just as much as I want you to fall in love with your smartphone camera and start taking more photos, better photos. AND? I want you to start printing them too. There are so many ways to turn our smartphone photos into photo books that will be treasured for generations to come.
Don’t forget to get selfies of you and YOUR mom too. It’s important. She’ll probably put up a fight if she’s anything like my mom but do it anyway. Get creative. Selfies aren’t always of our faces. I’ll tell you more about how to capture the details the next time I post in “My Pixel Addiction”.
I want you to get a selfie tripod with a Bluetooth remote (you can also set the self-timer!) too. Set it up in the area you’re playing Uno with your kids, or in the kitchen while you’re cooking dinner together. Get creative!
You are beautiful, and your journey is just as important, messy hair and all. Let’s change how the world sees us, mama. One mom selfie at a time.